During the summer, we do chore charts. We have three kids, the oldest (14) with autism. All kids are expected to do simple, daily chores to help out around the house. The younger two complete them, the oldest never does. If I bring it up or ask her to help, she throws a fit or has a meltdown. (Which is often accompanied with physical violence towards us) It feels completely unfair for the other two kids. My autistic kid is high functioning and absolutely able to do chores. She acts like a two year old. We are all at a loss. Her room gets too messy and she melts down and demands that we clean it for her. We’ve tried to help, we’ve made cleaning checklists that make it easy. She won’t do it. She forces us to. It feels like she holds us hostage and gets her way with her meltdown/tantrum as a threat. We are at a loss and the start of summer feels dreadful. HELP!!!

Posted by Mrothones at 2025-05-23 16:04:13 UTC