Going to try my hand at one more post. If this gets no interaction I give up on this website officially as there are some "glitches" going on that are pretty sketchy. I really am so confused. My mom desperately wants me to be indepdent but desperately wants me to need her. We've already determined she likely has mental health issues or her own, but her comments make me so infuriated. For example, I had a test due by 7. She wanted to go buy food before we came home, so as we were getting out of the car to head into the restaurant, I told her I need to be home at least by 6 to do a test (I had informed her about this test all day). I was being generous. Then, when we get home, I remind her I need to take a test. This test is on the computer and no noises can be heard and nobody can be seen in the room or else you will get flagged as cheating. She knows this as I've told her many times before. I unload most of the stuff that is immediate and important, and feed my dog. She then starts doing all this other stuff and I keep reminding her that as soon as my dog gets done eating, she and my dog need to go to her room. She then starts unloading unimportant things and doing all this stuff, STILL. My dog gets done eating and I tell her that I need to take my test. She said that I had all night and I could miss the event that I wanted to go to from 7-9 tonight. I tell her that, no, it is due at 7PM, not midnight. I don't have all night. Then she gets mad and says she just wants to get her food. I tell her that's okay. Then she starts doing other things and I tell her that everything on the counter can be done later except for my dog going out and her getting her food. She takes my dog out (I'm unable to do that right now), and then LEAVES HER FOOD ON THE COUNTER (very important part because she REALLY wanted her food). She then goes into her room and says "Come on (dog's name). We're not wanted. We're just human slaves." Quoted verbatim, exactly as she said it. I take my test as soon as she leaves the room and closes her bedroom door. I kept thinking about it during my test thinking how absolutely stupid and idiotic it is to get someone riled up right before a freaking test. I finish my test, and then go to her bedroom, open the door, and tell her "I don't know why you got mad at me but for your information that test was harder than the last. The last one took me 5 minutes. This one took me 22. The last one was 3 questions. This one was 10." She then replies "I was just trying to do stuff before 6 because you said to get you home by 6." I replied "I was just being generous because you wanted to get food and I told you I needed to start the test multiple times." She then says "You didn't even know I was getting food - it doesn't matter what I was doing." I so wanted to say, you told me you were getting food and we went into a RESTAURANT, what the heck are you gonna get at a restaurant other than food? Not like it was for me because I couldn't get food there. Like what the absolute heck. I didn't say that and just told her "don't worry about taking me to the event. I don't want you to have to "slave" over me." The "slave" part I held up quotations because that's what she called herself and I wanted to get a point across. I then walked out and said "It'd be nice to go but I don't have to." She's constantly complaining about how I'm not indepedent enough but then when I try to be indepdent she throws an absolute fit and makes me feel bad about it. She also constantly wants me to get involved on campus and then makes it absolute heck and extremely hard to get involved and gets mad at me when I get involved. I would drive myself but I can't do that right now because I can't even hardly get my knee in the passenger side of the car yet due to surgery. Honestly, I'm worried that she might get as mad as she did last time and start making the house wholly inaccessible. So for parents: Update: She came to me a few minutes after posting this. It was late but I still got to the event. The event was nice, it was good to experience but I won't go back. She's been acting as though nothing happened, and when she approached me, she said "Are we going?" I told her "I don't want to make you "slave" away for me so no." She interuppted me (I continuted talking because when I'm mad I don't accept interuppting), and said "Do you want to go or not?" I responded "It'd be nice but-" and she cut me off and said "then get your butt ready." It was nice to go to the event but I'm still not sure what she's thinking and why she's acting as though nothing happened, because something clearly did and it's like she tried to make me feel bad and like it was my fault. How the heck do I please her? Do y'all want your kids to be independent yet depend on you? How do I show I still love her while trying to be independent? How do y'all want your children to participate in the world/school/college/work? For everyone: Did I respond correctly? Should I change anything for next time? Am I wrong about my feelings for how she acted and how it's stupid to say that right before a test? Be brutally honest. I want to hear the truth.

Posted by Ann24 at 2025-02-21 00:41:48 UTC