Mental health and self harming concerns with my youngsters; I feel I'm failing as a parent. 16 yo ASC son is often in defense mode and daily life is full of angst and upset. His ex struggled to move on so have been dealing with stalking and threats. The police are involved. It's been really stressful for everyone. He is preparing for exams and not in a good headspace. Trying to find the balance between giving him the space to process and encouraging positive focus on schoolwork. 12 yr old recently started the assessment process. I feel bad because he was always our NT son, who happily got on with life whilst we dealt with eldest's crises. Things now falling apart for the younger one. Tonight he cut up his arms and said he deserves it as he's useless. I am ashamed I didn't see his neurodivergence sooner. He is so different. I have two children who hate themselves and would rather bleed or scream at the world. I try so hard to be there for them, and help guide their thinking and choices. But have obviously failed. I'm a teacher myself and support a lot of ND students through the ups and downs of college life, but am letting my own children down. Sorry, just needed a safe space to rant. Will be seeking professional help for no2 son as soon as I can.

Posted by UKmum at 2024-12-14 23:35:41 UTC