Hi! I have a 25 yr old son who lives at home with me. He receives SSDI and does not work or attend school despite using many resources to do so. He reaches a certain point and cannot move forward. He loves reading (especially Wikipedia) and researching all kinds of things, history, politics, and video games. My challenge with him is he is angry all the time. He has trauma from losing his Dad at 13, both Grandparents at 18 (6 weeks apart), bullying, and molestation by a cousin. He has been with various therapists and last year found one whom he connects with. I also have been in therapy and the woman I work with asked if he had self awareness. After thinking and listening to him for a few weeks I realized he doesn't. He has to be right about everything, and is very critical of me with it getting increasingly worse. I have tried listening, talking when he is settled, and different medications for anxiety and depression. When I try to explain my point of view it just makes him more angry. The things he says to me have left me sobbing and hurt beyond anything. My therapist yesterday told me it was abuse. Emotional and mental abuse she said is just as bad as physical (which he has never shown). We did see his psychiatrist who recommended starting him on Abilify as it could help with his anger. He has yet started it. Has anyone tried this? Hoping it helps . I am at a loss of what to do. My heart breaks as he just seems angry about everything. Yes, I have tried many forms of descalation, spoken with his therapist along with him, tried explaining 'there can be two rights'. I don't know how much more I can take. Please no criticism as I am hard enough on myself as well as getting "advice" from family and friends. I am a... Mom with a broken heart. 💔
Posted by kmh at 2024-11-13 19:52:28 UTC