I’m at a loss with my ASD 9 year old son. He has two sides, really sweet and in a flip of a switch he is mean. Most of the meltdowns at home develop between his dad (my husband) and him. I feel like a mediator and at times the only adult. Most meltdowns happen when I’m in a different part of the house and not there to witness the start of what leads up to a major meltdown. I think our son is triggered by the tone that his dad uses. My son will say mean things like “he wishes his dad would die”. I told my husband to not talk to our son once meltdowns start as it makes it worse. It’s hard because our son will scream, spit, swear and say terrible things during these meltdowns. I’ve been reading and researching how to handle these meltdowns but I feel like it’s either conflicted advice or “one size fits all”. I’ve been trying to take note of when, where and time these take place and it seems to happen when he can’t get what he wants. I have ordered a couple books one being The Explosive Child, one written by Temple Grandin regarding behavior The Unwritten Rules of Social behavior and another one called We Are Not Broken. We need therapy for the family but having a time trying to find the right fit. Any and all suggestions, ideas or advice are welcome. I just want to learn more and hear of others experiences. Thank you for your input.

Posted by Ack at 2024-09-14 13:20:42 UTC