I have a diagnosed (ADHD and Asperger) 20 year old and an undiagnosed 21 year old living with me. I understand defense mode. I understand their challenges. Still, my husband and I are super frustrated and done with the whole situation. We have reached out to help over and over, but they don’t reach back. They make no effort to move forward in their lives and helping out at home only happens when we finally get angry. Therapy has done nothing. We really need help. The stress in the house is a lot. They live in filth, on their electronics all day, unless they are working at their part-time jobs. Neither have their licenses, neither are interested in higher education or pursuing something that will sustain their independence when that finally happens. I am well aware of all the struggles and defense mode. But something has got to change. Where is the line between understanding and enabling? Thoughts? Advice?

Posted by Jhut at 2024-08-21 10:23:23 UTC