Our aspie son has never really had rules or boundaries because he was a good kid. If we tried to enforce any, it would cause hell in the household so we didn’t. (Like get homework done now or vacuum your room.) He’s about to be 18 and my husband wants to set boundaries. Here’s why: our son’s Minecraft acct is linked to our home address. Lately he’s been changing the password to our Microsoft acct so he can play his old log in on the game. But he doesn’t tell my husband what the password is so he can’t go onto email. (I have my own acct so I’m ok.) We tell him to just share one password and let each other know, but he won’t. If I Google setting rules and boundaries for 18 yr olds, I get “tell them to pay rent, help with chores, cook, etc.” Stuff that we know doesn’t fit our neurodivergent kids. Has anyone had any success with boundaries and rules for older teens living at home? (I try to get him to be independent but he says my job is to take care of him forever because I’m a woman.)

Posted by Togsmom at 2024-08-19 14:34:50 UTC