I’m having trouble with a couple of issues: Is it possible to only be in defense mode around parents/teachers, as your teen knows that they are expecting them to do homework, practice hygiene, etc., but to not be in defense mode around friends? Also, how do you know that they are out of defense mode enough to even talk about school and hygiene without them exploding? How long does it take, and how do I risk putting them back into defense mode by bringing it up? Some days are better than others, but they need to do schoolwork and I can’t make any progress. I am struggling with 15 years old being a very tough age because of wanting independence and resisting any help from parents when it is needed, when there are possible attention issues as well. It’s like walking through a landmine dealing with basic things.
Posted by crew at 2023-10-20 17:59:59 UTC