How do you draw the line between enabling behavior and removing stressors to help them get out of defense mode? On the issue of driving, my son hasn’t driven since a few days after the dog died. He went out and came home in tears because driving in the neighborhood and by the park flooded his mind with flashbacks of when the dog died and then he felt like he couldn’t drive safely due to the intrusive thoughts. I’ve been driving him ever since. My husband, my husband’s counselor and others think he is manipulating me and he just needs to be forced to drive. Am I enabling his behavior or am I removing a stressor to help him get out of defense mode? How do I know the difference?
Posted by mooseiddings at 2023-03-30 04:28:56 UTC